The Kari Diaries: Maybe I Want It Afterall.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Throughout high school and much of college, I'd thought I was so sure about everything. And truly, most of it I was sure of , and some of those things I was even right about. Life is about progression. Very little should stand in the way of becoming a better you daily. Nothing is worth losing yourself. If it doesn't advance you, friend or lover or action, than it's only holding you back. You don't need anyone to make you feel complete. And anyone who tries to convince you otherwise isn't worth your time.

But I'm growing up. I'm 25 and most of my friends and peers are adults. And adults live adult lives. They have careers, and homes, and bills, and, spouses, and children. They have responsibilities to uphold and relationships to cultivate.

Holly & her "Fred"

You don't need anyone. But it's okay to want someone. And one day, you meet someone who makes you realize that you want all of the things you never thought you needed. Wanting it doesn't make you weak. It's okay to dream about your wedding day, to be strangely obsessed with "Say Yes To The Dress", and ogle diamond engagement rings on the Tiffany website. (Even the fabulously single Holly Golightly had breakfast at Tiffany's). You shouldn't be ashamed of scribbling a list on a post it, trying to find the perfect middle name to go with 'Charlotte' for your future baby girl, and tucking it away for safe keeping. An argument with your boyfriend isn't suppose to ruin your life, but it's understandable if it ruins your night. Being connected to someone in such a way that it feels like it encompasses you is okay so long as it doesn't eat you alive.

And I want that. I want happily ever after. I want it all.

6 comments:

Meredith @ Call Me What You LiDecember 11, 2013 at 9:29 AM
I soooooo agree with those post. It took me a while to get to that point where I felt like it was OK to want all that. I guess when you get raised to be this independent woman, it's hard to not feel weak when you want someone to share your life with. So it makes sense.

I'm guilty of looking at the wedding section of pinterest….and being totally obsessed with say yes to the dress.

You'll get it all, my love. I just know it.
Kathy@Vodka and SodaDecember 11, 2013 at 11:22 AM
there's absolutely nothing about wanting it all...everyone does. but the thing what some people do is panic when they feel they're "running out of time" and then settle...never settle! love is out there and it'll smack you in the face when you least expect it!

-kathy
Vodka and Soda
Jess ElyseDecember 11, 2013 at 11:53 PM
A-to-the-men. Amen. Everything you just said, exact thoughts most days. Especially since I'm still single and it's around the holidays. Worst time to be single. ha. But, yes, great post. Like Kathy below me said, as long as there is no panic involved and no settling, it will all be good!

Also, I think you might get on to me for this, but I still haven't seen Breakfast at Tiffany's. Eehh. It's on my list of movies to watch!!
Kari @ Lipstick Stains &CoffeeDecember 13, 2013 at 5:59 AM
AGREED. This independent woman has totally had to do some adjusting. And I am now a woman who depends on her man every now and then, has a board dedicated to wedding stuff on Pinterest & answers the question "it's been 5 years, when are you two getting married?" with "I'm not quite ready, but I guess it'd be nice to be his wife." lol baby steps.
Kari @ Lipstick Stains &CoffeeDecember 13, 2013 at 6:01 AM
This is practically what I say daily to either someone asking when me and my bf are getting hitched or why they haven't found the right one. I met my bf at a random party that I didn't even wanna go to lol. You speak ultimate truths - never settle! :)
Kari @ Lipstick Stains &CoffeeDecember 13, 2013 at 6:03 AM
It's totally all good. All in due time.
& you simply must see it - put it at the top of that list, missy!